The main purpose of Satan in wounding us is to destroy our relationships. The main relationship he desires to destroy is our relationship with God, secondarily our relationship with other people. Causing us to be unable to enjoy our life on earth, and not have a home in heaven. Because of our Adamic nature, we can respond to our early wounding in a sinful way, thereby locking us into patterns that we experience in adult life.

Generational sins and weaknesses are family weaknesses; familiar spirits, word curses and the iniquity of our ancestors pass to us much in the same way that genetically blue eyes or curly hair runs in families. It is even possible to experience wounding in the womb. I used to talk to my son before he was born after his birth he recognized my voice and responded positively to me. It is a proven fact the children in the womb experience stress and trauma, so emotional wounding is definitely a possibility.

Some possible causes of wounding in the womb:

• Being conceived out of wedlock
• One parent not wanting the child
• Bad time in marriage for child to come
• Conceived during war time
• Wrong sex
• Mother’s illness during pregnancy

Sources of wounding:

• Environment
• Culture
• The child’s perceptions about what happens
• Abuse
o Verbal
o Physical
o Sexual
o Rejection

Can you remember hearing your parents talk about anything-traumatic happening before you were two years old?

Do you recognize any patterns in your life that may suggest emotional wounding?

Father, I give you permission to show me any area of wounded ness that I am unaware I have. Open my eyes that I might see the areas you desire to work on.

How Fathers can wound us

Luke 4-18 Ephesians 6:1-4 Exodus 34:7
Colossians 3:21 Malachi 4:5&6 2 Timothy 3:1-5
Luke 1:17

The Bible has a lot to say about Fathering; in our culture, fathering is a lost art. We have confined it to bringing in the money and letting the women raise the children. We have lost God’s plan for the Father to nurture, train, guide and discipline the children after they weaned. Our earthly Fathers give us our first picture of God. Many of us are still relating to God through the cloud of hurts and emotions, which belong to our dads.

Absent fathers may cause us to expect that God will not be there for us – we relate to God in insecurity.

Workaholic fathers leave us feeling that God is too busy for us or that we are unimportant.

Angry or abusive fathers leave us afraid of God or angry with God.

Emotionally unavailable fathers leave us feeling we cannot lean on God and we cannot trust Him.

Performance oriented fathers leave us feeling we cannot lean on God and we cannot trust Him.

Loving fathers teach us that God loves and can be trusted.

Patient fathers teach us that God is patient.

Clearly, our image of God relates to our perceived relationship to our father.
When we deal with wounding our perception of what happened is just as real to us as what happened. Most fathers have good intentions for their actions but without proper role models themselves, the art of fathering for the most part has been lost.

The Biblical perspective of father is that he is the most important parent. Our society puts far more importance on mother. When a Jewish child reached the age of accountability, their father away from the skirts of their mothers would call out him or her. At that point, the primary responsibility for the nurture, care and discipline of the children fell upon the fathers’ shoulders.

Our human spirit created by God to drink life from our earthly father spirit, through touch, words, and discipline. You may even understand why father is absent, but your spirit will continue to search for father’s arms, heart and voice.
Was your father absent physically or emotionally when you were a child?

How do you interact with men/women?

How secure are you in your femininity/masculinity?

What do you remember about your father?

2 Tim 3:1-5
But know this, that in the last days perilous times will come: For men will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, unloving, unforgiving, slanderers, without self-control, brutal, despisers of good, traitors, headstrong, haughty, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God, having a form of godliness but denying its power. And from such people turn away! NKJV

How our Mothers wound us

An infant is born into the world completely dependent upon others for everything. The first year of life forms this little person’s foundation for trust and the child’s self esteem.
The foundation for trust built into the infant by the way mother responds to the child’s basic needs for food, warmth and touch. Our need for mother is absolute at the beginning. We need her milk every 2-4 hours, but more than milk we need to drink from her spirit: security, comfort, acceptance, and love. Our ability to be relational, to be intimate are profoundly affected by what our mother conveyed to us.

How do you feel about yourself?

Do you have a good sense of trust? On the other hand, do you have problems trusting?

Do you feel drawn to people who are needy?

Do you feel drawn to people who seem to be strong and confident?

Did your mother:

• Stay home
• Cuddle, hold, and kiss
• Affirm
• Give a stable home, environment.
• Love unconditionally
• Consistently and appropriately, discipline.

Mother gave us our first picture of ourselves. She reflects to us the way we most likely see ourselves:

1. Non-verbal messages
2. Verbal messages
3. The way she disciplined
4. What was her focus on?

Out of low self-esteem – broken ness manifests